I thought a lot about how to start this post. There was no way to say what I wanted to say, without it sounding weird. And there still is no way for that, so…
today we’re gonna talk about how fucked up we really are.
And how much we need to replace who we are with a better version of ourselves.
If you truly believe that you are the best possible version of yourself, that’s amazing. You can skip this post and I’ll see you next week.
But if you feel like there is room for improvement, then keep reading.
Let’s talk about Ohnok again for a second. It’s time you learned a bit more about him. Ohnok is a 20 year old student, a social person and looking from afar , his life is pretty good actually.
But from his view, Ohnok is missing something. He feels stuck.
Ohnok feels like everybody else around him is doing the most and he is still in the same place, being weighed down by something. No matter what he does he is way behind.
Maybe you feel the same way. Maybe you feel like there is something dragging you back. Well there is actually, in both your and Ohnoks case.
And if you have 10 minutes to spare, you can find out what the thing weighing you down is exactly.
No better place to start than the beginning. The foundation on which your whole personality is built upon is defined in the first 6 to 7 years of your life. You will grow up, you will learn things and improve. But that kid you were is still somewhere inside of you.
This inner child is a part of what we call the subconscious mind.
Im not making this shit up, this is something that a guy did some studies about like a hundred years ago. The guys name was Sigmund Freud. You might’ve heard about him.
He defined the subconscious mind as our automatic response system. It’s easier to get it with an example:
If I was to offer you some food you hate, let’s say tofu, you’re automatically going to think to yourself: ew, no.
You don’t have to think about if you like it or not, your subconscious mind takes care of that first instinct.
And in the center of that automatic process lies our inner child. All of your thoughts are built upon that. That foundation that you created in your first years is controlling all the automatic thoughts and feelings that you have now.
But how does your inner child decide this?
How does your subconscious mind know what you like and what you don’t or what makes you happy or hurt?
David Goggins explained this concept really well, so I’m gonna steal it:
Imagine that as a child, you were given a large red backpack to wear at all times.
Nobody ever told you what it was for, but the adults around you started putting rocks into the backpack that you then kept carrying around.
So you thought that this was the purpose of the backpack and started putting rocks in there yourself. Over time, some of the rocks fell out or broke down to smaller rocks but most of them stayed right there.
And by now, the backpack is like, really fucking heavy.
Sometimes you take a look at these rocks and realize you don't recognize most of them.
They're just there, they have been there for years, many of them you don't even remember how long.
You look at the rocks on top and you don’t even notice how many more there are on the bottom. And you realize you still don't even know what the purpose of this backpack is.
All our childhoods involve these rocks in some way. Some have had a really bad childhood and now their backpacks are overflowing. By no fault of our own, but we are the ones left with this burden.
Our backpacks were filled by all these other people that had an influence over our life.
The backpack doesn't weigh your body down, it weighs your soul down. Every single rock makes every decision and experience and therefore your life harder.
Your ex girlfriend or boyfriend who really hurt your feelings, your teacher who told you that you are not gonna make it in life or some close friends who talked behind your back or even a stranger who said something rude about you.
Why would you carry this backpack that somebody put on your back and filled up with rocks?
Why the fuck would you do this without questioning it? Why would you keep carrying it and at the same time keep wondering why other people are getting farther and getting there faster?
When you take a look at all these rocks and start getting rid of them, you will realize that they are not our regular rocks made of sand or granite or whatever.
That would be too easy.
These black rocks are made of leftover hatred, anger, guilt, shame and many other things. They come from injuries or injustices or mistakes you can't or won't or haven't even tried to let go of.
The backpack represents the subconscious mind we talked about earlier.
But if you're reading this, you are likely an adult with a lot more control over your life. You choose what goes into your backpack and who gets to put something in it. There is no need for these things to weigh you down that much. It's time to let go.
It's time to empty your backpack full of rocks that your parents, friends, teachers or even strangers put there. It's time to take a look at all these rocks and face them.
Like I said, destroying these rocks is not possible, they will always be here. But you can choose which ones to keep with you.
Take what you need.
Not every rock serves a purpose. Some are only there to weigh you down. Some are only there to keep you up at night. Yeah, some are only reminders of your stupidity. But a lot of them can help you out. So choose wisely which ones to keep.
Take what you need.
By picking your rocks you can influence your inner child just as much as it influences you. You can change what makes it mad or reminds it of bad things. By accepting that these rocks are a part of you, you won’t feel their weight anymore.
You could never outrun somebody who learned how to pack their backpack.
Somebody who only took what they needed.
All of this is really easy to say, but how the fuck are you supposed to reach into the backpack and start taking stuff out.
Well, as I told you about the backpack and all these things, let me be the one to help you with removing the rocks as well.
We'll go through this in the second part of this blog and throughout this journey.
But, let me not overwhelm you with all of this. We will share a simple step by step plan to make all of this easier for you. And if you’re wondering how easy, well if you’ve made it to here you’ve already completed the first step on your journey.
The only hard thing you have to do is to decide to take up our help. We’ll take care of the rest, just follow along. Let’s empty some backpacks.
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Let me introduce you to the guy in the picture up there.
His name is Ohnok.
Some of you might recognize that name.
You guys are the fucking OGs around here.
Just like REAMO and a lot of you probably as well, Ohnok has great things planned for 2022. The only thing is, he knows what his goals are, but he has absolutely no idea how to get there.
He has tried in the past but failed.
But trust me.
This time, Ohnok will get there.
This blog will serve as a journal for his story. We will follow him throughout his journey, watch him improve, try and learn new things and smash through all his goals.
And by doing this, you can also pick up on all the things he will go through.
Trust me, it’s better to learn from his mistakes than from your own.
But what are his goals actually? Losing weight, saving money, ending COVID?
Well, even the simplest way to put it is complicated, but bear with me.
His plan is total redefinition and health.
Ohnok has his interests, things like fashion, music and other things you know and love. But he has always been a bit passive about them.
He never lived his interests, he just liked them.
So the plan is pretty much this: stepping into his interests, making the best out of them and redefining himself to the best version of himself he could ever possibly be.
The health part is pretty broad as well. I do not mean just physical health, but mental health and keeping healthy relationships as well.
Especially today and especially with these mentioned interests, this whole world, social media and people involved can harm your health.
So what was the problem, why couldn’t he accomplish these things in the past? If you have ever tried to fulfill some of these goals yourself, you probably know where the problems lie.
And you know it’s fucking hard and takes a long time.
Let’s take fashion as an example. Let’s say you are really into fashion but only participate from the sidelines.
You know everything about it but you are just not on that level that you know you could be on.
You want to stop being an observer and get fully into it or you just want to improve your game.
Or maybe you were really into fashion when skinny jeans and longline tees were THE thing to wear. But then you fell out of it and now everybody is talking about baggy oversized fits and earth tones.
You can’t take out your red Sixth June sneakers out of your closet and expect to continue where you left off.
So where do you go from here? What is stopping you?
Probably one of these
All of these things can be summarized like this: overwhelming.
I know how it feels to be lost, overwhelmed or even intimidated when it comes to dressing your best. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Fashion trends are constantly changing, there are endless retail brands who all offer the same things, so you don’t even know where to start.
You may even have a lot of clothes but lack the ideas or energy needed to combine them to create inspiring outfits.
Nobody should have to feel like this when getting into their interests, but the fucked up thing is that this is the reality for many of us, including Ohnok. And this is true for pretty much every interest you can think of.
I just picked fashion because of obvious reasons.
Real talk: The idea behind this blog is to offer our closest followers a little bit of navigation through this overwhelming world.
We want to make it as simple as possible to be the best and most creative version of yourself.
We plan to do this through Ohnok, whose change and improvements will become apparent with every single blog post. We have always been about fashion.
So, of course, much of the focus here will be put on that as well.
But we are going to talk about so much more: physical & mental health, home decor, self care, music, family…
This year is going to be a big one for REAMO and for Ohnok. Hopefully also for you. The blog will be here to accompany all three of us on this path to improvement.
We would love to be a part of your journey, no matter how big or small and no matter what direction you plan on going.
As mentioned, we will be taking a look at many different things. Already next week we are starting with tips for rebuilding yourself and will be offering you some building blocks to kickstart your journey towards a better you.
So, let me welcome you to the family again.
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